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-INSOMNIA-

INSOMNIA

- Insomnia is a sleep disorder that is charactarized by difficult falling and/or staying asleep.

People with insomnia have one or more of the following symptoms :-

• Difficult falling asleep 
• Waking up often during the night and having trouble going back to sleep 
• Waking up too early in the morning
• Feeling tired upon waking

TYPES OF INSOMNIA 

PRIMARY          -     A person is having sleep problems that are not directly associated with any other                                           health condition or problem.

SECONDARY    -     A person is having sleep problems because of something else, such as a health

                                  condition (like asthma, depression, cancer or heartburn), pain, medication they are 

                                  taking or a substance they are using like alcohol.

CAUSES OF INSOMNIA

Causes of acute insomnia can include :

• Significant life stress 
• Illness
• Emotional or physical discomfort
• Environmental factors like noise, light or extreme temperature that interfere with sleep.
• Some medication

Causes of chronic insomnia can include :

• Depression or anxiety
• Chronic 
• Pain or discomfort at night

SYMPTOMS 

• Sleepiness during the day
• General tiredness
• Irritability
• Problems with concentration or memory

SLEEP MORE TO AVOID INSOMNIA !!!

XOXO

note # 8

     

HAPPY FASTING !!!

CANT WAIT FOR MY BIRTHDAY THO YIKESSS !!1 

OKAY OKAY 

BYEE 

XOXO,

            AISYAH

-HOW TO COME OUT OF THE CLOSET-

HOW TO COME OUT OF THE CLOSET 

Coming out of the closet may be one of the most difficult decisions in your life. Just keep in mind that above all else, you're a gem. Show your shine and know there isn't any reason to hide yourself behind a door of fear. Besides the people who really love you won't abandon you because you are who you are and if they do, they don't deserve to have you in their lives. Just remember to ease on it, don't bring it up suddenly. 

1. Acceptance! Accept yourself for who you are. You can never be comfortable telling people about your sexual orientation when you're not comfortable with it yourself. You're just as much a person as another orientation. It doesn't make you any different than anyone else. You are a perfect human being.
2. Who's first? Decide who to come out to first. Choose someone you trust and who might be able to help you when things get tough. Many people tell a good friend first, before they tell their parents. Start with someone you know to be accepting, who does not have a habit of outing other people. Listen for how they react to others. You could choose a counselor for this to get some training in how to come out from an expert, just make sure the counselor is gay-friendly before coming out. Counselors are in a position to make life very hard if they're prejudiced. A good tip is a "rainbow" or "gay-friendly" sign in the counselor's office.
3. Rehearse with that friend or counselor. Work it out for each person on your list of those you want to come out to what. Some people will respond best to a formal "We have to talk about something important," presentation. Others may respond best to your just blurting it casually in the middle of conversation. "No, Jim, I'm not watching the girls. I'm watching that guy on the end, he's giving me the eye and he's got cute buns."
4. Prepare yourself for a lot of questions. Many people you come out to have no idea what it's like to be gay. Homophobia is often based in ignorance. Some of the questions may even be insulting, but they're genuinely confused. They might not understand the difference between a gay person and someone who's transgender, for example, and come back with "Does that mean you want a sex change?" Parents may ask "But what about grandchildren?" Depending on your future plans, that may have a positive answer like "Not necessarily, if I find Mr. Right we could adopt or find a surrogate mother so we could have kids. Is it important to you that they're genetically yours or more important that we pass on the traditions you taught me?" That response leaves some negotiation room on issues that may be important to them.
5. Approach. Choose your approach. If you're dealing with someone who has a very strong opinion about gay people, you might want to come out very carefully. If you are dealing with your parents, think about their reaction first. You want them to accept you, but consider that this could be hard for them, too. Prepare yourself for a not too enthusiastic reaction, and just be grateful if they say they love you, even if they need some time to get used to the idea.
6. Be prepared with the URL and phone number for PFLAG. Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays has a lot of experience helping parents and friends overcome their initial shock and fears. This is a support group that can help your loved ones in a big way and a resource you should hand them on your first discussion. They may not want it at first or they may surprise you and become very active in it. It's there for them in ways you can't be though, like any support group it's most effective for those actually in the situation.
7. Note! Coming out of the closet is obviously harder than just these simple steps. However, once you're out and you look back on this life altering decision it will seem simple. This will show you who your real friends are and shake out anyone who'd reject you if they found out. If you have to lie for someone to love you, they don't love you. Remember, you're unique, and they should appreciate that.
8. Give them time to grieve. If any of your close family and deep friendships have a lot of trouble with it despite all your work, give them time to grieve. Their world has just changed in a big way, they are facing a terrible choice or may have rejected you outright but regret it later. Give them a year of patient, compassionate understanding and acceptance that it's hard for them too. Don't do anything that would otherwise hurt them, try to be as self controlled as possible. If after a year and your best efforts, they still don't accept you, accept that the relationship is gone. It hurts, but it's better to face the grief rather than lie to them and keep a false relationship. That's not healthy or satisfying for either.
9. Take their age, health and situation into consideration. If your relative is very old and has trouble with gays, coming out might break the relationship at a time when they don't have much time left. Judge carefully whether to just let that relationship go on with their never knowing or whether to face that. Sometimes the elderly can surprise you and react better than your parents or their generation.

see ya later alligator girlies !! 

oh and ... im not a lesbian okay hahaha

xoxo,

        aisyah

31 AWESOME LIFE HACKS FOR GIRLS

 31 AWESOME LIFE HACKS FOR GIRLS

1. Tie a ribbon around your feet and then slip on some flats to one up a simple look.
2. Use a hair dryer and socks to help break in some flats.
3. Use beeswax to waterproof your shoes.
4. Use nail polish to colour the soles of your shoes.
5. Add some style to your hairdo with some nail polish painted bobby pins.
6. Leave your jeans overnight in the freezer to make them smell better.
7. Sew a bra strap clasp to your favourite shirt to avoid visible bra strap.
8. You can open a nail polish bottle easier by wrapping a rubber band around the cap.
9. Make a baking soda sachet and put it in your shoes and you dont ever have to deal with stinky shoes.
10. Use an ice cube tray to organize your rings and earrings.
11. Use clear nail polish on the inside of your ring to avoid your fingers from discoloring.
12. Hang clothes backwards to clean out your closet.
13. Use popsicle sticks as motivation to work out.
14. Use your hair conditioner to shave your legs.
15. Use ice cubes to remove gum from your hair.
16. When you are travelling, put your shoe in a shower cap when you pack your suitcase.
17. Use a tic tac box to keep all your bobby pins 
18. Add a magnetic strip to your wall so that your bobby pins stay in one place .
19. Shower curtain hooks are great for hanging bags.
20. Use nail polish to identify your keys easily.
21. Dryer sheets can get rid of deodorant stains.
22. Use a magnetic board to store your makeup.
23. Use your hair straightener as a tiny iron.
24. Loose ponytails wont give you bald spots.
25. Apply glue as a bottom coat before applying your nail polish and you can peel it off whenever you want.
26. Spray your perfume on the back of your ear, inside wrist, behind your knee, base of your throat or inside your elbow to make it last longer.
27. After applying your lipstick, lay a tissue across your lips, dust a translucent powder on to make the colour set so it stays longer.
28. After applying your lipstick, put a finger in your mouth, close your lips around your finger, then pull your finger out. The excess lipstick will get on your finger, not your teeth.
29. Use your hairdryer to heat your eyelash curler, then use as you normally would. The heat will set the curl and it will last longer.
30. Use a toilet seat cover to replace your makeup blotter.
31. Keep a set of extra keys infront of your door.You'll be amazed at how often you use those suckers.

Want more LIFE HACKS ??? Coming soon !!!

xoxo,

   aisyah

Self Harm

Self harm can be a way of coping with problems. It may help you express feelings you can't put into words, distract you from your life or release emotional pain. Afterwards, you probably feel better, at least for a little while. But then the painful feelings return and you feel the urge to hurt yourself again.

Self harm is a way of expressing and dealing with deep stress and emotional pain. As counterintuitive as it may sound to those on the outside, hurting yourself makes you feel better. In fact, you may feel like you have no choice. Injuring yourself is the only way you know how to cope with feelings like sadness, emptiness, guilt and rage.

The problem is that the relief that comes from self harming doesn't last very long. It's like slapping on a band aid when what you really need are stitches. It may temporarily stop the bleeding but it doesn't fix the underlying injury. It also creates its own problems.

If you're like most people who self injure, you try to keep what you're doing secret. Maybe you feel ashamed or maybe you just think no one would understand. But hiding who you are and what you feel is a heavy burden. Ultimately, the secrecy and guilt affects your relationships with your friends and family members and the way you feel about yourself, it can make you feel even more lonely. worthless and trapped.


                      SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF CUTTING AND SELF HARM

• Cutting or severely scratching your skin
• Burning or scalding yourself
• Hitting yourself or banging your head
• Punching things or throwing your body against walls and hard objetcs
• Sticking objects into your skin 
• Intentionally preventing wounds from healing
• Swallowing poisonous substance or inappropriate object.

Need tips on how to stop self harming ?? 

xoxo,

   aisyah